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Alright, well let's talk I guess.
I had a lot of travel but what I'm really bad at is this idea that if I'm going to make a post I have to catch up on everything so while we're not going to pretend the last six months didn't happen I'm not going to hold myself to an impossible standard anymore.
Does anyone but Maki even read this thing? I guess that's why I stopped posting on Facebook actually. My audience started with HS friends, then Shop Kids, then it's co-workers and Mexican Aunties who think I put a Death Curse on them because I say things like "Hope to see you next year" in the middle of Covid and they interpret that to mean I'm giving them the ojo because they won't make it to next year. So yea I stopped posting because my audience for one story isn't the same as the audience for another. JFC imagine me posting a boob story on Facebook with the spread of "friends".
I'm glad I kept up with my hs friends when I did. I'm glad they're all ok. I've started weeding out the people I don't really care about, though with the direction FB is going it's unlikely I'll be particularly active there anyway. Still, it's a shame. Seems like every ten or so years a platform I gathered friends on dies out. I guess that's why I started paper letters though even that is hard. Maybe I'll get like a printed newsletter, and reserve actual pen and ink to my most important people.
I'm fine. I've had a lot of good in my life, even recently, even with all this stuff going on in the Year of Our Lord 2025.
That said, I'm a pretty positive person but I want to note a negative feeling.
Juanita Elena Campos (Helen), mom of Cisco, Melissa, and Sergio Campos passed away Friday Jan 17th. Cisco and Sergio are HS friends that I still keep in contact with. Actual contact not just FB contact. She was a friend of my family as well. My own grandmother knew her, and she used to babysit my Aunt Becky who is the oldest of my grandma's children. Every one of "The kids" in my generation had a positive interaction with her, and to me she was family.
I'm upset over this. I'm upset with myself over this. People die, it's just how life plays out. I'm upset with myself because Sergio made a public FB post back in Dec 2024 about how Helen was in a recovery home and would love visitors. I've been around the block and I know someone at her age in a "recovery home" usually means a stroke or some sort of near end of life calamity. I said I would write and while I did write a lovely short letter letting her know of the status of the kids, I never sent it because I wanted to get a photo in there and never got that printed because I wanted the fancy photo paper and then before you know it I'm scheduled to be in Texas anyway so I'll just visit her when I'm down. Then The Freeze prep happened and I wasn't able to swing by on Friday which was for the best for me because that's when she passed.
I'm annoyed at myself that it took three weeks to write a letter to let someone who was dear to me know how I'm doing, even though I knew that it was likely end of life. I did let my nonFB active friends know about the services, but I didn't let Becky know because what would she do with that information? Just be sad about it? Uncle Tom isn't likely to travel from Dallas to Galveston in his health. I don't know if I did the right thing here.
I'm fine. And someone's mom passed and it's not about me. I'm just annoyed with myself for not sending anything out. If Helen was anything like my grandmother though she already knew all about The Crew and I'm just being upset with myself over nothing.
I had a lot of travel but what I'm really bad at is this idea that if I'm going to make a post I have to catch up on everything so while we're not going to pretend the last six months didn't happen I'm not going to hold myself to an impossible standard anymore.
Does anyone but Maki even read this thing? I guess that's why I stopped posting on Facebook actually. My audience started with HS friends, then Shop Kids, then it's co-workers and Mexican Aunties who think I put a Death Curse on them because I say things like "Hope to see you next year" in the middle of Covid and they interpret that to mean I'm giving them the ojo because they won't make it to next year. So yea I stopped posting because my audience for one story isn't the same as the audience for another. JFC imagine me posting a boob story on Facebook with the spread of "friends".
I'm glad I kept up with my hs friends when I did. I'm glad they're all ok. I've started weeding out the people I don't really care about, though with the direction FB is going it's unlikely I'll be particularly active there anyway. Still, it's a shame. Seems like every ten or so years a platform I gathered friends on dies out. I guess that's why I started paper letters though even that is hard. Maybe I'll get like a printed newsletter, and reserve actual pen and ink to my most important people.
I'm fine. I've had a lot of good in my life, even recently, even with all this stuff going on in the Year of Our Lord 2025.
That said, I'm a pretty positive person but I want to note a negative feeling.
Juanita Elena Campos (Helen), mom of Cisco, Melissa, and Sergio Campos passed away Friday Jan 17th. Cisco and Sergio are HS friends that I still keep in contact with. Actual contact not just FB contact. She was a friend of my family as well. My own grandmother knew her, and she used to babysit my Aunt Becky who is the oldest of my grandma's children. Every one of "The kids" in my generation had a positive interaction with her, and to me she was family.
I'm upset over this. I'm upset with myself over this. People die, it's just how life plays out. I'm upset with myself because Sergio made a public FB post back in Dec 2024 about how Helen was in a recovery home and would love visitors. I've been around the block and I know someone at her age in a "recovery home" usually means a stroke or some sort of near end of life calamity. I said I would write and while I did write a lovely short letter letting her know of the status of the kids, I never sent it because I wanted to get a photo in there and never got that printed because I wanted the fancy photo paper and then before you know it I'm scheduled to be in Texas anyway so I'll just visit her when I'm down. Then The Freeze prep happened and I wasn't able to swing by on Friday which was for the best for me because that's when she passed.
I'm annoyed at myself that it took three weeks to write a letter to let someone who was dear to me know how I'm doing, even though I knew that it was likely end of life. I did let my nonFB active friends know about the services, but I didn't let Becky know because what would she do with that information? Just be sad about it? Uncle Tom isn't likely to travel from Dallas to Galveston in his health. I don't know if I did the right thing here.
I'm fine. And someone's mom passed and it's not about me. I'm just annoyed with myself for not sending anything out. If Helen was anything like my grandmother though she already knew all about The Crew and I'm just being upset with myself over nothing.
